On Friendships

Sometimes there will never be the right words to say to someone. I think one of the many valuable things this friendship has taught me is that often times words aren’t even needed. Nothing needs to be exchanged. That sitting in silence together with the right person can actually speak the loudest. But just knowing that their energy is good and raw and has good intentions is enough. The words I do know are these: I am with you, always. And for you, always!

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The really cool thing about the best of friendships is that they see no boundaries. None whatsoever. Nothing is ever “too much” or “not enough time”, or “I don’t have the money for that”. They are the “absolutely!”, the “I am WITH you‘s”, the “you don’t have to do any of this alone”. They are the celebrations during the good and that really strong rock you need when the storm hits. They’re the friendships that know what you need when you’re not even sure of what it is that you need. Usually just a hug and a good listener though. Those are the best of friendships. And when you know, ya just know.

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A friendship with yourself:

I think if I could tell my younger self something it would be to take it easy, ya know? Don’t be so hard on yourself. Like take a deep breath, kid. Spend a little less time caring what people thought of you, what grades you made, who knew you, and more time just doing the things and spending time with the people that made you feel alive. Less time feeling like your life was sooOooO rough or the opposite, and acting like you had all the answers. And sure, at 9, 12, 16 -shoooot even at 22, it’s hard to know exactly what those things are that make you feel something. But now I think it’s a lot simpler than people make it out to be. Disconnect a little. Actually be alone for some time. Get to know the person you are and were meant to be. When you’re doing the best you can, and I mean really the best you can, isn’t that enough? To be the most patient, most compassionate, most honest version of yourself. That’s all you can do. In the grand scheme of things, is what we let consume so much of our emotions and attention going to matter in the end? Not everyone will get it, and that’s okay. But you’ve got to fill your bucket first before you can use that to fill others. So in other words, sii gentile con te stesso. Be gentle with yourself. Share some light.

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You asked me to surprise you and come up with

something that you always want to remember. Something that spoke to me when i have seen you shattered into a million pieces, but also when i have seen you shine like none other. And this is it. YOU are the light! WE are the light. It can be dimmed, it can illuminate the darkest of places, it can be brought to someone who needs some more light when theirs is fading. Nonetheless, it is always there. Resting in all of us. And honored doesn’t even come to close to describing the feeling when you asked me to write your tattoo. My words, on your skin, forever. I’ll say it now as I’ve said it before, find those people that make your

light just burst. Be willing to share your light. This life is filled with goodness, choose to see it, choose to be it! It has always been you!